How to understand teenagers and their problems?

The first teenager problem is not being an adult. They think that being an adult makes them free. So they try to look like an adult. This thought pushes them to some bad habits. For example, in my country, starting age of smoking is nearly twelve. Drinking age is almost fourteen and these ages are decreasing from day to day. On the other hand, these behaviors show that they haven’t become an adult yet; they just don’t know.

The second problem is being restricted, in other words, having not enough freedom. In here, parents act the leading role. Parents always try to protect their child. This behavior usually bores the child and this event becomes a big problem. For example, going out with friends at night usually brings teenager against him or her parents. Moreover, this problem can cause them run away from home.

Another problem is obligations. School is a well-known example about obligations for teenagers. Waking up early, studying lessons, being compelled to continue school etc. are so boring. All of them bore teenagers moreover, makes teenagers aggressive. After then, arguments with teachers start and these problems can cause some psychological problems on teenagers. Another example is rules. ‘Rules’ contain not only school rules. All of rules have some bad effects on teenagers so that every teenager tends to break rules.

In conclusion, being teenager is too difficult because of these problems. Everybody was a teenager in past or will be in future. Adults should know the feelings of teenagers and they should help them.

What is EQ?

IQ and EQ
The concept goes with IQ; however they are very different, EQ is a current studying field compared with IQ, and they deal with different things. IQ shows the intelligence level with some problems and rules, EQ is quite different, and it is about the psychological side of human. IQ gives a certain result that can not be changed with time, EQ score can be changed, developed, the relationship between emotional data and intelligence is quite unclear, so there are many different claims on emotional intelligence. Some scientists claim that EQ is changeable, while some others claim just the opposite.

EQ and Life
The contribution of intelligence quotient and emotional one to the life, their impact on success of a person is always argued; but it is accepted that having high score of IQ is not the guarantee of success or happiness. Emotional quotient is a clear indication of successful life; think of a person who is self confident, happy, successful, talented, even if her/his IQ score is low s/he would most probably lead a good life. People, who know the limit of their emotions and social skills, are happier and more productive in life.

Models of EQ
There is not exact definition or model of emotional quotient; however three major models are used widespread. These are:
- Ability based model
- Trait model
- Mixed models

Ability based model: This model sees emotion as a way to personal development. Emotions make a person realize the environment. Every human being figure out knowledge differently and relates it with emotions. Perceiving, using, understanding and managing emotions are steps of this model.

Trait model: Trait model is related with ability based one, this model identifies the recognition, processing, and using emotional data.

Mixed models: There are some mixed models, ways of them are all different, Goleman model, and the bar on model are just two of these models.

What is Intelligence Quotient?

IQ level of a person does not depend only on himself/herself. It is thought that the test is affected by the mood of people during test, the culture, education, society and family has an impact on it, whether parental IQ score is effective or not is a current debate among scientists.

Intelligence Test Studies
Studies on intelligence test began in the beginning of 20th century, first test was published by a French scientist named Alfred Binet, and the theory was developed by William Stern who also coined the abbreviation IQ.

IQ Test
A number of problems are given to the people to be solved in a limited time. Tests generally consist of some forms, points related with language, visual things, these are all to figure out how fast people answer, whether they remember them, their short term memory is strong or not.

Calculating IQ
Different tests are used for different ages, as the age is a key factor to calculate IQ. Both overall score and individual one are calculated. The common calculating formula is like that:

Mental age / Chronological age X 100 = IQ score

The result shows the academic, educational knowledge and skills relatively. It is not the guarantee of success, happiness, and personal achievements, and it is not the sign of failure, either.

Factors Affecting Intelligence Quotient
It is thought that pure mind is not reached via this test; there are some factors that affect it. Genetic heritage has a great effect; it is a relative point as genetic heritage has the risk of being affected by environment, health, education, society, etc. Studying field and education of the persona are the other factors; test does not cover every issue, topic, so an intelligent person can have poor score due to the points mentioned in the test. Environment reshapes the personality and mentality, and it is effective. Mental situation of the tester should be healthy in order to get decent score; otherwise the result is not valid. According to some claims, gender and IQ is related, some searches claim that men score better than women, some others say women have higher score than men, however this is an argument that is open to debate and there is not exact rule about it.

We know that the source of the superstitions is ignorance. Do you know anyone who does not have a superstition? Most of the people, more or less, believe in them. Even though they deny superstitions, they can not help believing in them. They are superstitious. Unfortunately, we have hundreds of superstitions. Superstitions are all around the world. They change from culture to culture and they have a big influence in our lives.

There are two types of superstition. Good luck superstitions and bad luck superstitions.

Some common superstitions around the world:

Good luck superstitions

- If your right hand itches, you will earn money.

- If you find a four-leaf clover, you will have good luck.

- If you see a horseshoe which was lost, you will have good luck.

- If you throw rice on a new bride and groom, they will have so many children.

- If you dream about a white cat, you will have good luck.

- If you see a black cat which walks towards you, it brings you good luck.

- If your right ear itches, someone is speaking well of you.

- You can hang up garlic in your house for good luck.

- If you put a mirror just across the door, you will have good luck.

- If you put the sugar into the cup first, before the tea, you will have good luck.

- If you step on your shadow, it brings you good luck.

- If you catch a falling leaf on the first day of autumn, you will have good luck all winter.

- If you blow out all the candles on your birthday cake in one blow, you will get whatever you want.

- If the first butterfly you see in the year is white, it brings you good luck all year.

- If a girl drinks salty water then goes to sleep, she will see her future husband in her dream.

Bad luck superstitions

- If you open an umbrella indoors, it brings you bad luck.

- If you sleep with your feet towards the door, a nightwalker will steal your soul.

- If you whistle at night, a nightwalker will come to your home.

- When a cat sneezes three times indoors, it will rain in 24 hours.

- If you dream about a dog, you will have a lot of enemies.

- If you break a mirror, it will bring you seven years of bad luck.

- If an owl hoots in your garden, it brings you bad luck.

- If you walk under a ladder, you will have bad luck.

- If you kill an albatross, it brings you bad luck.

- If you sleep on a table, you will have bad luck.

- If a dog howls at night, death is near.

- If you see a bird that comes towards you, you will have bad luck.

- If you drop a dishcloth, you will have bad luck.

- If you eat from the pot, it will rain at your wedding ceremony.

- If you start a trip on Friday, you will meet misfortune.

- If your left hand itches, you will lose money.

Do you know some good or bad luck superstations, which weren’t listed above? Please write them as a comment.